In April 2007, Jayalakshmi, a nurse from Bangalore attempted suicide following endless sexual harassment by M P Renukacharya, a Hindu extremist party (BJP) legislator and the Chairman of the Karnataka State Electronics Development Corporation Ltd. She later released the pictures and videos of the sexual assault in front of the media.
In the same period , a quantity of locally-made Viagra and sex stimulants were recovered from the baggage of a senior Parliament Member of BJP. Babubhai Katara was arrested at Delhi airport for trying to fly with a woman and teenager to Toronto on the diplomatic passports of his family. He was arrested with one Paramjeet Kaur and a 15-year-old boy, Amarjeet Singh, who were posing as his wife and son.
According to specialists, sex addiction can involve a wide variety of practices. A large number of sex addicts say their unacceptable sexual practices have been the result of a gradual process.
It may have started with an unhealthy relationship, but over the years deteriorated to include compulsive behaviour which is frequently damaging.
Psychologist Sujendra Prakash says he’s come across several cases of happily married men who are addicted to sex. “They are rarely caught,”he says. “This may be because they are not celebrities, but social restrictions in our society mean that much is kept under wraps.”
According to him, “Those who display such behaviour are highly insecure people, mostly uncertain of their potency. They are are not good in bed. They indulge in promiscuous sexual activity to keep proving themselves. Their life is a lie and they lie to everybody. It is just like any other personality disorder and cannot be easily overcome.”
Experts also feel that sex addicts gain very little pleasure from actual physical contact. Yet they engage in sexual activities they don’t enjoy because they are trying to alter their own mood, and to anaesthetise painful feelings of low self-esteem or loneliness. “In our society, sex addicts are forced to wear a mask; they may appear harmless, but a lot is going on in their minds,”explains counsellor Ian Faria.
On whether this is a only male pre-occupation, Sujendra Prakash says, “Nymphomania exists more in literature than in the real world. While men are addicted to sex, women are addicted to love. But there are women who are aware that sex is a weak point for men and may use this to their advantage.”
As for solutions, psychologist Karun Mathews says, “Intense counsellings and sessions with psychologists or psychiatrists is recommended.
In the west, Sex Addicts Anonymous, based on the template of Alcoholics Anonymous, has been doing some amazing work.”But unlike alcohol or drug addiction, where the ‘just say no’ mantra is clear-cut, recovering from sexual addiction is not so straightforward.
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